Stepparents can either break a family or love a family unconditionally. My parents got divorced +/- 20 years back, my dad did get married after some years. My stepmom is one in a million. She treats us just as her own. The love she has for us is unconditional, at times I feel more comfortable speaking to her than my own parents, I am truly blessed.
It makes it very difficult for the kids to adjust to someone new in a parents life. The stepparent should be there to make life easy and not worse for the children. With some stepparents the bond may take longer to build but the stepparent has to be patient. It makes it hard if the stepparent becomes a "stepbully" and does everything in their power to make the kids miserable. The parent should make sure that the person they choose loves them with the "baggage" (with the kids). How can the stepparent tell the parent that they love them but yet hate on the kids. Why be nasty to the kids if you say you love the kids parent. Some stepparents feels that the parent pays too much attention to the kids, so in order for that to all end they rather cause havoc and animosity within the family. The stepparent becomes so selfish that they put the parent in an awful position to start taking sides, everything the child does the stepparent will make an issue of it and that is sad. Sometimes the reason the kids cannot adjust to the stepparent because they see how their parent is been treated by the stepparent. Kids are very protective over their parents; now if a stepparent is hurting their parent in anyway how do you expect to be liked by the children.
A stepparent is not there to take over the role of any of the parents, but now that they are in the situation they should be able to adjust, be patient, respect the bond that the kids have with their parents.Becoming a stepparent by blending families or marrying someone with kids can be rewarding and fulfilling. If you've never had kids, you'll get the chance to share your life with a younger person and help to shape his or her character. If you have kids, they can build relationships and establish a special bond that only siblings can have.
Parents choose your significant others wisely or you can lose your kids. I pray that one day my mother finds love like my dad did, she finds someone who will adore her kids the way my stepmom does. She finds someone who respects the bond she has with her children.💓💝💝