Dating has become more challenging


I am sure a lot of you can agree with me when I say "dating has become more challenging". There are so many things happening in the World and we losing trust when it comes to everything.

Dating sites is a big thing for people, but you will never catch me on a site because I am so scared of the perverts that I may meet. Even when it comes to social media, I get so afraid of just answering any guy if he private messages me. The thing with me, is who can you believe now a days. Men will say "I am not in a relationship",  but yet they are, if I say yes to him, his woman finds out about me, then I am the bad one, but yet I knew nothing. Then we have all these other funny things happening in the World like rape, kidnapping etc. Us woman stress so much, like how can I go on a date with a complete stranger- Must we now tag a friend along with to every date we have just to be safe. "What must happen?" Dating is becoming a nightmare, but we need to be loved, we need to be showed love- but HOW?... Then we have people who are just scared of committing, instead they want to just have this "vat and sit" relationship with no commitment- "What is the use of been in a relationship when you not sharing your ideas of what you wish the future must hold for you.  Social media also can be a problem- people exaggerate their lifestyles on social media and when you meet them in person they are nothing but the average person or even worse. Some people are incredibly shallow, and it doesn't help to know that a lot of people care about appearances when looking for a partner. Hence it can make a person proceed with extreme caution. Then we have men who are so threatened by an Independent woman- they won't date her because they are so threatened- instead they should be proud to have someone who has her life in order.
Another reason why dating has become challenging is because of all the baggage we carrying with us... What we have been put threw in previous relationships. We scared to commit because you may get hurt again. As we grow older, we add more things to our list of what we look for, we understand what we want in personality qualities, physical attractions, values, interests etc. This makes finding a partner tricky because each person has a certain score for his/herself to determine his/her own worth. When we meet someone we tend to point out the negative aspects we see and focus on those. It's definitely good to maintain high standards because you want to be with someone who matches your worth, but sometimes standards can be unattainable. This will only result in constant disappointment.

Starting a relationship requires time, effort and money. Some people feel they can afford to wait and rather concentrate on their career. My gran always says to us- "There is a lid for every pot"...💓



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Never let a fool kiss you, or a kiss fool you. Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen. In its purest form, dating is auditioning for mating (and auditioning means we may or may not get the part).

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV / 738 h

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things 🙏


Comments

a_craved_aura said…
This is so profound I can relate on so many levels. Great read.

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