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Learn to live your best life alone... #Strugglelove


Learn to live your best life alone... #Strugglelove

Ladies and gentleman over this past year when I am watching something there is always a notebook and pen nearby.. I am always jotting down things that are Interesting or Motivating. Also I use the notebook just to write down my feelings for the day or anything, writing helps, try it...

Well anyway; I was watching "The Real" sometime last week and they were discussing #Strugglelove.. It is love that benefits the partner you in a relationship with. All that person does is take and take; and all it does to you, is drain you. You loving your significant other real good and what are you receiving in return. 
I recently went way back and looked at my past relationships and the one that I previously left. I noticed a pattern. I mostly dated guys that I would need to fix, and when I think about it- I dated these types of guys because it validated that I was needed. But in the end I helped fix these people; but what did it do for me, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.
 I have been told and I am sure a millions of others have been told that they will never find love and this was said by their significant other. That is a lie and you should not be listening to them ( that is mental abuse- they trying to play with your mind by saying anything nasty to make you feel like you nothing and not worthy of love again). They are just trying to break you down more. Do not stay in a relationship if you not happy. Karyn White said it: "I rather be alone, than been unhappy". I never thought I could leave my last relationship, I loved him dearly but the day came when I told myself ENOUGH. I never imagined life without him, I never imagined doing anything without him because him and I were not only lovers but bestfriends. Look at me now, I am still standing and I am doing much better than I did 7 years ago,  because I finally found myself again. I told myself it is just a faze he is going threw he will be ok- but I was just making myself more and more miserable. When someone shows you who they really are believe them and RUN.... You see RED FLAGS- RUN...I know how easy it is to make excuses for them, believe your gut and RUN.... And this thing that some of us tell ourselves, if I leave him there might be worse out there, so I rather stay with him- THAT IS UTTER BULL. That our parents did, we living in modern times now. A woman can live on her own, a woman can make her own rules etc.  Not every man will treat you like crap.

You need to love and value yourself.  After a break up, you need to learn how to live your best life on your own, you cannot expect to jump into a new relationship and be happy- yes you will be happy in the honeymoon stages of the relationship but soon those cracks will show. Enjoy your own company, take yourself out, buy a gift for yourself. Meet with your girlfriends, take yourself on holiday. You need to work on yourself before meeting someone new. If you are just going to jump into a new relationship, it's like you will be spreading a disease, (you just dragging your past into a new relationship without fixing yourself). When you give yourself sometime to breathe after the old relationship, you need to rediscover what you really expect in a new relationship: how he or she should treat you.


I posted this today when I posted a pic of myself today:
You are responsible for the soil u put yourself in, you have the power to change your environment 🌹🌹🌹🌹👑
A flower cannot bloom in the wrong Environment. 


          You are not responsible for fixing someone.....




1 Corinthians 13:4-5Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.



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